英语听力—环球英语 565 Five Love Languages: Receiving Gifts

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Thank you for joining us for today's Spotlight¹ program. I'm Marina Santee.
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And I'm Adam Navis. Spotlight uses a special English method of broadcasting. It is easier for people to understand, no matter where in the world they live.
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Dr². Gary Chapman likes to study different cultures. He has met people from all over the world. And he has seen one very important similarity³. People in most cultures like to give and receive gifts. Gift giving is an important part of almost all cultures.
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In today's program, we continue our series⁴ on love languages. In an earlier program, we talked about the first two love languages. Today's Spotlight is on the third love language: gifts.
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Gift giving is especially important in Caribbean cultures. At one time, Dr. Chapman lived in the Dominica. There he met a man named Fred. Fred had lost a hand in a fishing accident. He could no longer fish for his job. Fred had a lot of time to sit and talk with Dr. Chapman. The two men became good friends.
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During one visit, Fred gave Dr. Chapman a gift. He gave him some fruit juice to drink. The juice came from a coconut⁵. Coconuts⁶ produce sweet milk. Dr. Chapman described this experience.
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"Fred gave me the coconut and said 'This juice is for you.' The juice looked green, but I drank it. I drank all of it. I knew it was a gift of love. I was Fred's friend and to friends you give juice."
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At the end of Dr. Chapman's time in the Dominica Fred gave him another gift. It was a smooth stick found by the sea. Fred told Dr. Chapman that the stick had lived by the sea for a long time. Fred wanted Dr. Chapman to have it. Fred told Dr. Chapman that the smooth stick would help him remember Dominica. Years later, Dr. Chapman still has the stick. He said,
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"Even today when I look at that stick, I can almost hear the sound of the Caribbean waves. But it is not as much a reminder⁷ of Dominica as it is a reminder of love."
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In his book, The Five Love Languages, Dr. Chapman identifies five different ways to show love. These are the five love languages, according⁸ to Dr. Chapman.
Kind words of affirmation
Quality time
Receiving gifts
Acts of service
Physical touch
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Through many years of research Dr. Chapman has found that not all people feel and receive love in the same way. He believes that to really express love to others, you must know their love language. It is important to know how they most feel love.
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So far we have described the first two love languages: kind words of affirmation and quality time. Today we will describe the third: receiving gifts. Everyone likes to receive a gift from time to time. But some people like to receive gifts more than other people. Receiving gifts makes them feel the most loved.
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Dr. Chapman describes a gift as something that you can hold in your hand. It is something visual⁹, something that you can always see. A gift is a visual symbol of love. Giving a gift can represent¹⁰ the love you feel for someone.
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Visual symbols of love are more important to some people than to other people. Someone who enjoys receiving gifts can look at a gift every day. She can say, "Look, he was thinking about me when he chose this gift for me. He must really love me."
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Dr Chapman says that gifts can come in all sizes, colours and shapes. He says that you can purchase gifts, find gifts, or make the gifts yourself. It is true that some gifts may cost money. But, some gifts may cost no money at all. Dr. Chapman says,
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"To the individual whose main love language is receiving gifts, the cost of the gift will matter little."
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You may not feel right about giving gifts to express your love. You may not have received a lot of gifts yourself. Maybe you do not need gifts to feel loved by others. Maybe you do not know how to choose the perfect gift for someone else. But, that is because receiving gifts is not your love language.
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If you do not like the idea of expressing your love with gifts, Dr. Chapman says that you should learn to like it! That is because sometimes expressing love means¹¹ doing things that you normally¹² do not like to do. Dr Chapman says,
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"If you know someone whose main love language is receiving gifts, you can become a good gift giver. In fact, it is one of the easiest love languages to learn."
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Dr. Chapman suggests making a list. If you know someone who likes to receive gifts, make a list of the gifts she would like. This involves listening closely¹³. You must listen to people to know the kinds of gifts they would like. Talking and listening to people will give you an idea about what they like.
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To people who like to receive gifts, Dr. Chapman suggests giving them gifts often. He says not to wait for a special time to give gifts. Many people receive gifts on holidays or on their birthday. These are special days for giving gifts. But, expressing love to someone who likes to receive gifts means giving them gifts on normal days too. That is, give gifts all the time!
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Remember, gifts do not have to cost money. You could pick a flower from the ground and give that. You may read something special in a magazine. You may think of a friend who might like to read it too. Cut it out, and give it to your friend as a gift. Gifts can be very simple. Dr. Chapman says that if a person's main love language is receiving gifts then,
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"...almost anything you give will be received as an expression of love."
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Dr. Chapman would like all people to remember that giving gifts to some people is very important. Giving gifts to them makes them feel loved. Dr. Chapman says that gifts need not cost money. For some individuals the worth of a gift has nothing to do with money. But it has everything to do with love!
 

1 spotlight   

n.公众注意的中心，聚光灯，探照灯，视听，注意，醒目

参考例句：

• This week the spotlight is on the world of fashion.本周引人瞩目的是时装界。
• The spotlight followed her round the stage.聚光灯的光圈随着她在舞台上转。

2 Dr   

n.医生，大夫；博士(缩)（= Doctor）

参考例句：

• Dr.Williams instructs us in botany.威廉博士教我们植物学。
• The ward of the hospital is in the charge of Dr.Green.医院的这间病房由格林医生负责。

3 similarity   

n.类似；类似处；相似性

参考例句：

• There were points of similarity between them.他们之间有某些相似之处。
• There was a wonderful similarity between the twins.这对孪生儿相像得惊人。

4 series   

n.连续；系列

参考例句：

• The students have put forward a series of questions.学生们提出了一系列问题。
• He gave forth a series of works in rapid succession.他很快连续发表了一系列的作品。

5 coconut   

n.椰子

参考例句：

• The husk of this coconut is particularly strong.椰子的外壳很明显非常坚固。
• The falling coconut gave him a terrific bang on the head.那只掉下的椰子砰地击中他的脑袋。

6 coconuts   

n.椰子( coconut的名词复数 )；椰肉，椰果

参考例句：

• We found a bountiful supply of coconuts on the island. 我们发现岛上有充足的椰子供应。 来自《简明英汉词典》
• Coconuts provide "meat", drink, oil, soap and fiber for fishing line. 椰子提供“肉类”，饮料、油脂、肥皂和做钓（鱼）丝的纤维。 来自百科语句

7 reminder   

n.提醒物，纪念品；暗示，提示

参考例句：

• I have had another reminder from the library.我又收到图书馆的催还单。
• It always took a final reminder to get her to pay her share of the rent.总是得发给她一份最后催缴通知，她才付应该交的房租。

8 according   

adj.按照，根据

参考例句：

• According to the Bible we are all the seed of Adam.根据《圣经》所说的，我们都是亚当的后裔。
• We must cut our coat according to our cloth this year.今年我们必须学会量入为出。

9 visual   

adj.视力的，视觉的，观看的，直观的，看得见的，光学的

参考例句：

• The film is a visual art.电影是一种视觉艺术。
• His designs have a strong visual appeal.他的设计在视觉上很有感染力。

10 represent   

vt.表现，表示；描绘，讲述；代表，象征；回忆；再赠送，再上演；vi.提出异议

参考例句：

• I'll represent to him the risk he is running.我要向他指出他所面临的险境。
• We selected her to represent us.我们选她作为我们的代表。

11 means   

n.方法，手段，折中点，物质财富

参考例句：

• That man used artful means to find out secrets.那人使用狡猾的手段获取机密。
• We must get it done by some means or other.我们总得想办法把它干完。

12 normally   

adv.正常地，通常地

参考例句：

• I normally do all my shopping on Saturdays.我通常在星期六买东西。
• My pulse beats normally.我脉搏正常。

13 closely   

adv.紧密地；严密地，密切地

参考例句：

• We shall follow closely the development of the situation.我们将密切注意形势的发展。
• The two companies are closely tied up with each other.这两家公司之间有密切联系。