英语听力—环球英语 1007 Five Love Languages: Physical Touch

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　　Welcome to Spotlight¹. I'm Adam Navis.

 

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　　And I'm Marina Santee. Spotlight uses a special English method of broadcasting. It is easier for people to understand, no matter where in the world they live.

 

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　　For many years, a man named Dr. Chapman has studied how people communicate love to each other. And he has found that not all people feel and receive love in the same way. Dr. Chapman says that people speak different love languages. In earlier programs, we talked about the first four love languages. Today's Spotlight is on the fifth love language: touch.

 

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　　Ana* often had trouble sleeping. When she tried to sleep, many thoughts came into her mind. She thought about what she had done that day. She thought about what she had to do the next day. She found that she could not quieten her mind. Her mind was never at rest.

 

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　　But, there was one thing that helped Ana fall asleep. It was her husband's touch. You see, when Ana could not sleep her husband took her hand into his. He would rub² her hand. The feeling helped Ana's mind to relax. Ana's husband rubbed her hand until she began to fall asleep.

 

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　　This small touch may not seem very important. But, for Ana her husband's touch represented true love.

 

　　Dr Chapman believes that to really express love to others, you must know their love language. It is important to know how they most feel love. Dr. Chapman describes the love languages is his book the "Five Love Languages." The five love languages as stated by Dr. Chapman are,

 

　　Words of affirmation

 

　　Quality time

 

　　Receiving gifts

 

　　Acts of service

 

　　Physical touch

 

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　　Some peoples' love language is words of affirmation. This means that they feel love most when other people say kind words to them.

 

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　　But, some people need something else to feel love. Some peoples' love language is quality time. To feel loved, these people enjoy spending time with others.

 

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　　Other peoples' love language is receiving gifts. These people feel the most loved when someone gives them a gift. It does not matter what the gift is. The gift represents love.

 

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　　There are other people whose main love language is acts of service. They feel loved when other people do nice things for them.

 

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　　But, there is one last love language, physical touch.

 

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　　Today's Spotlight ends our series on love languages. And we will describe the love language physical touch. People, whose love language is physical touch feel loved when they receive loving touches.

 

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　　In your body you have thousands of small, feeling receptors. These receptors lie just under your skin. They cover your body. When something touches your skin, the receptors receive the message. Then they send the message to your brain. Your brain translates the message and turns the message into a feeling. So, we can feel if something is hot or cold, soft or hard. We can feel pain and we can feel pleasure. Our feeling receptors are so exact, that we can even feel if a touch is loving or hostile³.

 

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　　Every person physically⁴ feels touch in the same way - through these nerve⁵ receptors. But for people whose love language is physical touch, touch is especially important. They especially feel loved when they receive loving touches, and especially hurt when they receive hostile ones.

 

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　　What is a loving touch? Well in our story Ana felt a loving touch when her husband rubbed her hand. But, touches are different for every person. What may be a loving touch for one person may not be a loving touch for another person. Touching⁶ people in ways they do not like to be touched does not express love. It is important to touch people in ways that make them feel loved.

 

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　　Loving touches can be simple. You could place your hand on your friend's shoulder and give a little squeeze⁷. Or, you could take your friend's hand into yours. A loving touch may be rubbing⁸ someone's feet or back. Or it could be holding someone close if she is feeling sad. Dr. Chapman explains the importance of physical touch.

 

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　　"Physical touch can make or break a relationship. It can communicate hate or love. To the person whose main love language is physical touch, a touch will speak far louder than the words, "I hate you" or "I love you." A hit in the face is very harmful to any child. But it can destroy a child whose main love language is touch. A soft hug with your arms communicates love to any child. But it shouts love to the child whose main love language is physical touch. The same is true for adults."

 

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　　For adults who are married, Dr. Chapman explains another form of physical touch: sexual⁹ touch. Inside of marriage, one way a husband and a wife can express their love to each is through sex. For a husband or a wife whose main love language is physical touch, sex is very important.

 

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　　For example, Pete and Patsy were married. But their marriage was not going well. Patsy's love language is quality time. But Pete was never home. Pete's love language is physical touch. But Patsy did not know this about Pete. Patsy cleaned the house and cooked good meals for Pete. She thought this would make Pete happy. And it did, sometimes. But, there was something missing¹⁰ for Pete. And that was physical touch.

 

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　　Pete often felt rejected by Patsy. It seemed like she did not enjoy his touches. They rarely had sex. So, Pete did not feel like Patsy loved him. His way to deal with rejection¹¹ was to stay away from home. So Patsy felt alone.

 

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　　One day Pete and Patsy went to a marriage counselor¹². The counselor explained the idea of love languages. Soon, Pete and Patsy were speaking each others' love language. Patsy began to give Pete loving physical touches. Because they were married this often meant having sex. But sometimes Patsy just gave Pete a hug. Pete felt loved. So, he began to spend more time with Patsy. They were finally speaking each others love languages. Their marriage improved!

 

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　　Love languages are important. Everyone needs to feel loved. But, not everyone feels love in the same way. Kind words of affirmation. Quality time. Receiving gifts. Acts of service. Physical touch. What is your love language? What is your wife's or husband's love language? What love language do your friends speak? Learning¹³ the love languages of other people can make you even closer. To learn other peoples' love languages is to learn how to love them best.

 

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　　The writer of today's program was Rebekah Schipper. The producer was Michio Ozaki. The voices you heard were from the United States. All quotes were adapted and voiced by Spotlight. Computer users¹⁴ can visit our website at http://www.radio.english.net to listen to more programs. The name of this program is "The Five Love Languages: Physical Touch."

 

　　*These names have been changed to protect privacy¹⁵.

1 spotlight   

n.公众注意的中心，聚光灯，探照灯，视听，注意，醒目

参考例句：

• This week the spotlight is on the world of fashion.本周引人瞩目的是时装界。
• The spotlight followed her round the stage.聚光灯的光圈随着她在舞台上转。

2 rub   

n.摩擦，困难，障碍，难点，磨损处；vt.擦，搓，摩擦，惹怒；vi.摩擦，擦破

参考例句：

• Don't let the wire rub up against the pipe.别让电线碰到管子上。
• He used to rub up against many famous movie stars.他过去经常偶然碰到许多有名的影星。

3 hostile   

adj.不友好的，敌对的；敌方的，敌人的

参考例句：

• The local people are hostile to outsiders.当地人敌视外地人。
• Their hostile looks showed that he was unwelcome.他们怀敌意的表情说明他不受欢迎。

4 physically   

adj.物质上，体格上，身体上，按自然规律

参考例句：

• He was out of sorts physically,as well as disordered mentally.他浑身不舒服，心绪也很乱。
• Every time I think about it I feel physically sick.一想起那件事我就感到极恶心。

5 nerve   

n.神经；勇气，胆量，沉着，果断

参考例句：

• Did he have the nerve to say that?他竟有脸说这话吗？
• He never got up enough nerve to meet me.他从没有足够的胆量来见我。

6 touching   

adj.动人的，使人感伤的

参考例句：

• It was a touching sight.这是一幅动人的景象。
• His letter was touching.他的信很感人。

7 squeeze   

vt.硬塞，硬挤；挤压；n.榨；经济困难；拮据

参考例句：

• This machine helps you to squeeze more juice out.这台机器能挤出更多的果汁。
• It was a tight squeeze in the crowded bus.公共汽车上载客太多，挤得很。

8 rubbing   

n. 摩擦, 研磨, 按磨

参考例句：

• This insect makes its strange noise by rubbing its back legs together. 这只昆虫摩擦它的两条后腿发出一种奇怪的声音。
• Jerry was already unhappy because he fumbled the ball,but his teammates kept rubbing it in. 本来杰瑞就很不高兴，因为他失了球，而他的队友们还一再提那件事。

9 sexual   

adj.性的，两性的，性别的

参考例句：

• He was a person of gross sexual appetites.他是个性欲旺盛的人。
• It is socially irresponsible to refuse young people advice on sexual matters.拒绝向年轻人提供性方面的建议是对社会不负责任。

10 missing   

adj.遗失的，缺少的，失踪的

参考例句：

• Check the tools and see if anything is missing.检点一下工具，看有无丢失。
• All the others are here;he's the only one missing.别人都来了，就短他一个。

11 rejection   

n.拒绝，被拒，抛弃，被弃

参考例句：

• He decided not to approach her for fear of rejection.他因怕遭拒绝决定不再去找她。
• The rejection plunged her into the dark depths of despair.遭到拒绝使她陷入了绝望的深渊。

12 counselor   

n.顾问，法律顾问

参考例句：

• The counselor gave us some disinterested advice.顾问给了我们一些无私的忠告。
• Chinese commercial counselor's office in foreign countries.中国驻国外商务参赞处。

13 learning   

n.学问，学识，学习；动词learn的现在分词

参考例句：

• When you are learning to ride a bicycle,you often fall off.初学骑自行车时，常会从车上掉下来。
• Learning languages isn't just a matter of remembering words.学习语言不仅仅是记些单词的事。

14 users   

用户，使用者( user的名词复数 )

参考例句：

• The new software will prove a boon to Internet users. 这种新软件将会对互联网用户大有益处。
• Ramps should be provided for wheelchair users. 应该给轮椅使用者提供坡道。

15 privacy   

n.私人权利，个人自由，隐私权

参考例句：

• In such matters,privacy is impossible.在这类事情中，保密是不可能的。
• She wept in the privacy of her own room.她在自己房内暗暗落泪。