生气的心理益处-Anger can benefitrelationships(3)

Angry people are optimistic

生气的心理益处我们通常认为生气是非理性的行为，是消极情绪，但是，有研究发现生气这一行为也有着其积极的一面。

Anger can benefit relationshipsAnger is a natural reaction to being wronged bysomeone else and it's a way of communicating that sense of injustice¹. Butsociety tells us anger is dangerous and we should hide it. What does this do toour personal relationships?

Oddly enough research has shown that hiding anger inintimate relationships can be detrimental² (Baumeister et al., 1990).

Theproblem is that when you hide your anger, your partner doesn't know they'vedone something wrong. And so they keep doing it. And that doesn't do yourrelationship any good.

The expression of anger, if justifiable³ and aimed atfinding a solution rather than just venting⁴, can actually benefit andstrengthen relationships.

1 injustice   

n.非正义，不公正，不公平，侵犯（别人的）权利

参考例句：

• They complained of injustice in the way they had been treated.他们抱怨受到不公平的对待。
• All his life he has been struggling against injustice.他一生都在与不公正现象作斗争。

2 detrimental   

adj.损害的，造成伤害的

参考例句：

• We know that heat treatment is detrimental to milk.我们知道加热对牛奶是不利的。
• He wouldn't accept that smoking was detrimental to health.他不相信吸烟有害健康。

3 justifiable   

adj.有理由的，无可非议的

参考例句：

• What he has done is hardly justifiable.他的所作所为说不过去。
• Justifiable defense is the act being exempted from crimes.正当防卫不属于犯罪行为。

4 venting   

消除； 泄去； 排去； 通风

参考例句：

• But, unexpectedly, he started venting his spleen on her. 哪知道，老头子说着说着绕到她身上来。 来自汉英文学 - 骆驼祥子
• So now he's venting his anger on me. 哦，我这才知道原来还是怄我的气。