巧妙拒绝别人-使用非防卫性语言,但一定要表述清楚(10)

巧妙拒绝别人

 

Make sure your words are non-defensive¹ but clearly stated

 

使用非防卫性语言，但一定要表述清楚

 

No one wins when a requestor reads your softly spoken no as a yes or a maybe.

 

Long, detailed² explanations are usually read as defensive or confrontational³.

 

The answer should be strong and non-emotional. Justsay no clearly, and smile as you say it.

 

1 defensive   

adj.防御的；防卫的；防守的

参考例句：

• Their questions about the money put her on the defensive.他们问到钱的问题，使她警觉起来。
• The Government hastily organized defensive measures against the raids.政府急忙布置了防卫措施抵御空袭。

2 detailed   

adj.详细的，详尽的，极注意细节的，完全的

参考例句：

• He had made a detailed study of the terrain.他对地形作了缜密的研究。
• A detailed list of our publications is available on request.我们的出版物有一份详细的目录备索。

3 confrontational   

adj.挑衅的；对抗的

参考例句：

• Fans love rappers partly because they strike such a confrontational pose. 乐迷热爱这些饶舌艺人一定程度上是因为他们所采取的那种战斗姿态。 来自互联网
• You prefer a non confrontational approach when it comes to resolving disputes. 面对争端，你不喜欢采用对抗性的手段来解决。 来自互联网