坏习惯-责备(6)

Eradicating¹ these bad habits

 

改掉坏习惯

 

Blaming.

 

责备

 

We need to feel in control of our lives in order tobe happy, which is why blaming is so incompatible² with happiness. When youblame other people or circumstances for the bad things that happen to you,you've decided³ that you have no control over your life, which is terrible foryour mood.

 

为了快乐，我们需要对生活有掌控权，这也就是为什么责备和幸福之间彼此不相容。当你因为坏事发生在自己身上而责备别人或是环境时，就决定了你对生活没有掌控权，这对你的情绪是很糟糕的。

 

Complaining.

 

抱怨

 

Complaining is troubling, as well as the attitudethat precedes it. Complaining is a self-reinforcing behavior. By constantly talking -- and therefore thinking -- about how bad things are, you reaffirmyour negative beliefs.

 

和前面的几种态度一样，抱怨让人烦恼。抱怨是一种自我强化的表现，通过不停地说和想事情有多么的坏，你重申了自己的消极信念。

 

While talking about what bothers you can help youfeel better, there’s a fine line between complaining being therapeutic⁴ and itfueling unhappiness. Beyond making you unhappy, complaining drives other peopleaway.

 

谈论困扰你的事情可以让你感觉好一些，这和抱怨被治疗有微妙的区别，后者助长了不快乐。除了让你不开心，抱怨也会让其他人远离你。

 

1 eradicating   

摧毁，完全根除( eradicate的现在分词 )

参考例句：

• Objective: To study the acute and chronic toxicity of Ten-flavor-acne eradicating-capsule. 目的：探讨复方中药合剂十味平痤胶囊的急性及慢性毒性。
• We are on the verge of eradicating polio in the world. 我们已在世界消除小儿？痹症的边缘了。

2 incompatible   

adj.不相容的，不协调的，不相配的

参考例句：

• His plan is incompatible with my intent.他的计划与我的意图不相符。
• Speed and safety are not necessarily incompatible.速度和安全未必不相容。

3 decided   

adj.决定了的，坚决的；明显的，明确的

参考例句：

• This gave them a decided advantage over their opponents.这使他们比对手具有明显的优势。
• There is a decided difference between British and Chinese way of greeting.英国人和中国人打招呼的方式有很明显的区别。

4 therapeutic   

adj.治疗的，起治疗作用的；对身心健康有益的

参考例句：

• Therapeutic measures were selected to fit the patient.选择治疗措施以适应病人的需要。
• When I was sad,music had a therapeutic effect.我悲伤的时候，音乐有治疗效力。