时差N小时 你属于哪种约会对象?

Don: So, Yael, how did the blind date go?

唐：那么，雅艾尔，你的相亲怎么样了？

Yael: Not so well. He was one of those "anxious attachment¹" types.

雅艾尔：不太好。他是那种“焦虑依附”类型的人。

Don: "Anxious attachment" types? I don't think I know about those.

唐：“焦虑依附”类型？我想我不知道这些。

Yael: Sure. That's one of the three major psychological patterns that have been identified in adult romantic relationships—at least according to research done at Harvard Medical School and the University of California.

雅艾尔：当然。根据哈佛大学医学院和加利福尼亚大学所做的研究，那是成人恋爱中的三种主要心理模式之一，。

Don: What are the other two types?

唐：其他两种类型是什么？

Yael: Well, there are "secure attachment" people. This kind of person tends to show a lot of trust and be willing to compromise. The majority of people fall into this category. "Avoidant attachment" people are afraid of emotional intimacy² and often say a lot of bad things about it. "Anxious attachment" people are insecure about relationships in general and tend to try and control other people.

雅艾尔：嗯，还有一种类型是“安全依附”型。这种人易相信别人，而且愿意妥协。大部分人都属于这种类型。而“逃避依附”型的人则害怕与人感情过于亲密，还经常对此进行抱怨。“焦虑依附”型的人对两人的关系缺乏安全感，倾向于去控制他人。

Don: Sounds like "secure attachment" is the one to look for.

唐：听起来“安全依附”型的人是我要找的对象。

Yael: Interestingly, in a study of over eight thousand people between the ages of fifteen and fifty-four, more "anxious attachment" was found in young people than older people. Researchers have two theories about this. It may be that our younger generation is just more anxious than they used to be—maybe because of other things going on in their lives. Substance abuse, divorce and money worries all seem to steer³ young people into the "anxious attachment" camp. Or it might be that a lot of people are anxious about love when they are young, and then as they get older they tend to find a stable relationship and take on more of the characteristics of the "secure attachment" folks.

雅艾尔：有趣的是，一项研究调查了八千多名年龄在15至54岁之间的人，研究发现年轻人中属于“焦虑依附”型的人比年老人更多。研究人员对此有两种看法。其一可能是我们年轻一代比以前更容易感到焦虑，或许是因为他们在生活中遇到坎坷。滥用药物、离婚、经济困难使年轻人落入焦虑型的阵营。其二或许是许多年轻人对爱情感到焦虑，随着年龄的增长他们往往会找到一份稳定的感情，因此就呈现出更多“安全依附”型的特点。

Don: That's a hopeful possibility!

唐：那是相当有可能的。

1 attachment   

n.附属物，附件；依恋；依附

参考例句：

• She has a great attachment to her sister.她十分依恋她的姐姐。
• She's on attachment to the Ministry of Defense.她现在隶属于国防部。

2 intimacy   

n.熟悉，亲密，密切关系，亲昵的言行

参考例句：

• His claims to an intimacy with the President are somewhat exaggerated.他声称自己与总统关系密切，这有点言过其实。
• I wish there were a rule book for intimacy.我希望能有个关于亲密的规则。

3 steer   

vt.驾驶，为…操舵；引导；vi.驾驶

参考例句：

• If you push the car, I'll steer it.如果你来推车，我就来驾车。
• It's no use trying to steer the boy into a course of action that suits you.想说服这孩子按你的方式行事是徒劳的。