豆知识 2009-12-20&12-26 当朋友变为情人之后

 In this clip we’ll talk about when friends turn into lovers. It’s one of the greatest things because hopefully your lover is your best friend. But there should be some ground rules. If you’ve come from a part of a friendship, now you’ve become intimately involved. There’s some rule changes. Now you need to stop talking about all other relationships that you’ve had. You might know a lot about each other, but you know, the man that you’re intimately involved with doesn’t want to hear about all the other men that you’ve been interested in in the past. It’s an ego¹ thing, so, and don’t expect to be immediately involved in every little aspect of their life. You know as a friend, you probably know a lot about them, but now that you’ve become intimate, you might want to just be immediately included in all those other things. Give them the space. Don’t get too clingy and change the energy that worked so well with the friendship. Just add the intimacy². It makes it nice.

 

This is Donna Barnes, Life and Relationship Coach in New York City.

1 ego   

n.自我，自己，自尊

参考例句：

• He is absolute ego in all thing.在所有的事情上他都绝对自我。
• She has been on an ego trip since she sang on television.她上电视台唱过歌之后就一直自吹自擂。

2 intimacy   

n.熟悉，亲密，密切关系，亲昵的言行

参考例句：

• His claims to an intimacy with the President are somewhat exaggerated.他声称自己与总统关系密切，这有点言过其实。
• I wish there were a rule book for intimacy.我希望能有个关于亲密的规则。