豆知识 2009-12-27&2010-01-02 教你重获爱情

 Hi, I’m Donna Barnes. I’m a Life and Dating Coach and owner of NY Dating Coach here in New York City.

 

In this clip we’ll talk about how to win back love. And that can be a really hard thing to do if the person isn’t interested in doing that. If he’s, or he or she is completely shut off from you and they’ve drawn¹ a hard boundary that they do not want to hear from you, then unfortunately you need to respect that. But if they are still seem open to you at all, then you need to take responsibility for anything that you did to contribute to the relationship going wrong, and apologize. Saying “I’m sorry” goes a really long way instead of being defensive². If there’re things that you see that need to change about the relationship, then make an offer. Say “I acknowledge that I was wrong at this and I’d like to make, have an opportunity to do it better”. And really present a proposal essentially³ of how the relationship can be different if you go back. You can't just expect to go back to what it was and, and expect them to want to do that. That won’t work.

 

This is Donna Barnes from New York City.

1 drawn   

v.拖，拉，拔出；adj.憔悴的，紧张的

参考例句：

• All the characters in the story are drawn from life.故事中的所有人物都取材于生活。
• Her gaze was drawn irresistibly to the scene outside.她的目光禁不住被外面的风景所吸引。

2 defensive   

adj.防御的；防卫的；防守的

参考例句：

• Their questions about the money put her on the defensive.他们问到钱的问题，使她警觉起来。
• The Government hastily organized defensive measures against the raids.政府急忙布置了防卫措施抵御空袭。

3 essentially   

adv.本质上，实质上，基本上

参考例句：

• Really great men are essentially modest.真正的伟人大都很谦虚。
• She is an essentially selfish person.她本质上是个自私自利的人。