豆知识 2010-07-04&07-10 如何面对恋人的欺骗

 Hi, I'm Donna Barnes. I'm a life and dating coach and owner of NY Dating Coach here in New York City. 

 

 

In this clip¹, we'll talk about what do you do if your boyfriend cheats on you. Well, there's a whole broad spectrum² of answers, depending on how he's behaving afterwards. If it was a one-time thing and he's told you about it and he genuinely³ seems sorry, then you need to decide if you can forgive him because if you can't forgive him, then you really do need to end the relationship. You can't beat him up constantly. You can't punish him because he did this. 

 

 

If he's the kind of guy that seems like he's gonna do it again or he doesn't genuinely seem sorry or he's blaming you for why he cheated, then you need to get out of that relationship. You want to be in a relationship with a man who values you completely, and trust is really important to a relationship. So if you don't feel like you can trust him, you feel like he's gonna do it again, trust me, there's somebody much better for you out there. You'd be better off finding someone else than trying to save this disastrous relationship

1 clip   

n.夹子，别针，弹夹，片断；vt.夹住，修剪

参考例句：

• May I clip out the report on my performance?我能把报道我的文章剪下来吗？
• She fastened the papers together with a paper clip.她用曲别针把文件别在一起。

2 spectrum   

n.谱，光谱，频谱；范围，幅度，系列

参考例句：

• This is a kind of atomic spectrum.这是一种原子光谱。
• We have known much of the constitution of the solar spectrum.关于太阳光谱的构成，我们已了解不少。

3 genuinely   

ad.真地；确实地

参考例句：

• She appeared genuinely surprised by this gesture of affection. 看来她真的被这个爱意的表示惊呆了。
• She seems genuinely fond of the children. 她似乎真的喜欢这些小孩。