趣味英语第94期:如何避免和朋友产生隔阂

Dano Boyl asks:

达诺·博伊尔问道：

"I'm worried that my friends and I are starting to grow apart. How do I stop that from happening?"

“我很担心我会和朋友们会渐渐产生隔阂。我怎么能阻止这种事情发生？”

That's a tough one.

这是个难题。

Give them a cake.

给他们一个蛋糕。

You guys should probably start hanging out more.

你们可能应该多出去玩玩。

I guess if you're growing apart you're not talking that much, so text them, talk to them in person.

我认为，如果你们开始产生隔阂，那说明你们的交流不够多，所以你要给他们发短信，面对面和他们交谈。

Text them up once in a while and be like, "Hey." But not too much or it's annoying. If that makes sense.

时不时给他们发条短信，就这样写：“嘿。”但不要发太多短信，那样会令他们感到很烦。如果这样做有用的话。

Sometimes we do grow apart from our friends, but there's something that connected you guys from the beginning, so why don't you try to keep that going to, you know, enhance¹ your friendship?

有时我们的确会和朋友产生隔阂，不过一开始是有东西把你们联系到一起的，那你为什么不继续那种联系，增强你们的友谊呢？

Make sure that you always have contact with your friend, whether it be with some sort of interest like music or reading. Always find that common contact.

要确保一直和朋友们有联系，无论是哪种兴趣，比如音乐或阅读。要一直寻找共同联系。

You can talk to them about it or find new friends or go your own way.

你可以和他们谈谈，或是交新朋友，或是走你自己的路。

You can't always stop it from happening. Sometimes you just have to accept it. And maybe for a while you grow apart, and then a little while later you get back together.

你不能一直阻止这种情况发生。有时你必须要接受。也许有一段时间你们会有隔阂，但是不久之后你们又会重新聚在一起。

You will grow apart, and you can do nothing about it. But I'm sure that you will find in the future more friends.

你们会产生隔阂，而你什么都做不了。不过我确定你以后会交到更多朋友的。

Dano, boy, after high school, even after college, life changes. You're on your own. The friends that you're gonna keep will always be your friends, even if they're not around.

达诺，高中毕业以后，甚至是大学毕业以后，生活会发生变化。你必须靠自己。你要保持关系的朋友会一直是你的朋友，即使他们不在你身边。

If your friends are, like, great friends and they're meant to be your friends forever, then you wouldn't be drifting² apart. If you feel that they're drifting apart there's probably a reason for that. But don't try and force everyone to keep together 'cause that's just not gonna make things better at all.

如果你的朋友是真正的朋友，那他们会永远都是你的朋友，你们不会渐渐疏远。如果你感觉你和朋友们渐行渐远，那可能是因为某种原因才会变成这样。不要去强迫所有人都在一起，因为那根本不会让情况好转。

1 enhance   

vt.提高（强度、力量、数量等），增加（进）

参考例句：

• BBC backing for the scheme will enhance its credibility.英国广播公司对这一计划的支持将提高其可信度。
• Good secretarial skills should enhance your chances of getting a job.出色的秘书工作技能会增加你找工作的机会。

2 drifting   

a.弥漫的

参考例句：

• Some people enjoy that kind of life, drifting from pillar to post. 有些人喜欢这种生活，到处漂泊游荡。
• The ship was found after drifting on the ocean for six months. 那条船在海上漂流了6个月后找到了。