双语有声阅读：做婚姻中的赢家

如果你争斗为了你自己，你只赢了爱人，而你斗争为了你的婚姻，你俩才都是赢家。

 

Look Out for No.2

 

There is a powerful healing energy that emanates¹ from loving.Lasting² love can learn to sense it,send it and make it grow. We are energized³ by love if we put our energy into loving.

 

Bad energy springs from conflicts that arise when two egos⁴ collide. When I watch husbands and wives argue with each other, I want to shout:"Grow up,stop fighting,start loving!"It is bettter to learn how to love than how to fight. Dont't try to win in your marriage, win for your marriage.

 

Marriage is designed primarily for giving rather than taking, It is meant to be a permanent union of two unselfish people. As one husband told me,"The old saying was "Look out for Number one",But we 've learned to "Look out for Number two."If you fight for yourself,only you can win. When you fight for your marriage, you both win.

 

爱能释放出一种强大到起治疗康复作用的能量。持续长久的爱能让人学会去感知，释放并加强增长这种能量。如果我们付出能量给爱，我们就会体验到这种能量使我们充满激情而活力四射。

 

相反的恶能也会从两个自私自我的人的争吵和矛盾冲突中迸发出来。每当我看到夫妻彼此争吵不休时仅不住想大吼：“成熟点吧，别再闹了，开始爱吧！”学会爱吧而不是学会怎样去争论和争吵。千万别努力去争取成为你婚姻中赢的一方。而要努力成为为你婚姻而努力的赢家。

 

婚姻原本是给予而不是索取，它意味着两个没有私心的人永久的联合。有个做丈夫的曾对我说：“俗话说人都要先为自己着想，”但是我们学会了“为他人着想照顾爱人的利益”。如果你争斗为了你自己，你只赢了爱人，而你斗争为了你的婚姻，你俩才都是赢家。

1 emanates   

v.从…处传出，传出( emanate的第三人称单数 )；产生，表现，显示

参考例句：

• He emanates power and confidence. 他表现出力量和信心。
• He emanates sympathy. 他流露出同情。 来自辞典例句

2 lasting   

adj.永久的，永恒的；vbl.持续，维持

参考例句：

• The lasting war debased the value of the dollar.持久的战争使美元贬值。
• We hope for a lasting settlement of all these troubles.我们希望这些纠纷能获得永久的解决。

3 energized   

v.给予…精力，能量( energize的过去式和过去分词 )；使通电

参考例句：

• We are energized by love if we put our energy into loving. 如果我们付出能量去表现爱意，爱就会使我们充满活力。 来自辞典例句
• I am completely energized and feeling terrific. 我充满了活力，感觉非常好。 来自辞典例句

4 egos   

自我，自尊，自负( ego的名词复数 )

参考例句：

• Their egos are so easily bruised. 他们的自尊心很容易受到伤害。
• The belief in it issues from the puerile egos of inferior men. 这种信仰是下等人幼稚的自私意识中产生的。