控制情绪的3个方法

 　　1.Change your perspective

　　改变你的观点

　　Emotions, even challenging ones like anger, fear and jealousy¹, are there for a reason! They’re messages from you to you — there’s wisdom. Instead of “controlling” the emotions, control your behavior.

　　情绪，甚至是挑战那种生气，恐惧和嫉妒，都是有理由的。他们给你传递出一种信息---理智。不是控制你的情绪，而是控制你的行为。

　　What if we could interact with other people with that same calm, powerful? One major reason we don’t is that we get caught up in small tensions and conflicts.

　　倘若我们和那种同样平静，有利的人打交道会怎样呢？我们没有这样的一个主要的原因就是我们处在一个有点小紧张和矛盾之中。

　　At the very core of our being is a set of reactions that help us survive. Thousands of years of practice have refined our ability to protect ourselves from threat and danger. We don’t have turtle-like shells or tiger-like fangs² — we have super-sensitive brains.

　　我们人类的一个核心就是设置了一个帮助我们生存的反应。成千上万年的实践已经精练了我们保护自己免受威胁和危险的能力。我们没有乌龟一样的外壳或者老虎一样的长牙---我们有超级敏感的大脑。

　　When our brains perceive a threat, they react to protect us; it’s a survival response built into the emotional brain. Depending on biology and experience, that protection comes from fighting, fleeing, or freezing.

　　当我们的大脑遇见威胁的时候，他们就会做出保护我们的反应；那是一个建立在情感大脑中的一个生存反应。依赖于生物反应和经验，保护免受战斗，流离失所或者严寒。有的人也增加了另外一个----So, if I threaten you, I can almost guarantee that you will react by fighting, fleeing, or freezing. You will “be defensive” by attacking back, retreating. Of course, depending on your reaction, you can almost guarantee that I will respond with one of those as well.

　　所以如果我威胁了你，我能确信你会为了战斗、流离失所或者严寒有反应。你会因回击、撤退而“被保护”。当然，根据你的反应，你能保证我也会对此做出反应。

　　2. Create emotions strategies.

　　创建情绪策略

　　Consider: What do you want to happen next? Based on these factors: What feelings will help make that happen? Do you have any of those feelings? Chances are, in any situation you have multiple feelings — call on the ones that will help you move forward.

　　思考：你希望接下来会发生些什么？基于这些因素：哪些情感会帮助这些的发生？你有这些情绪吗？机会就是---在任何情况下你都会有多种情感--找出那种能帮助你前进的情绪。

　　3.Charge your compassion³ batteries.

　　管理好你的激情能量

　　It’s tough to make emotionally wise choices when you’re feelings of compassion are hiding. Interestingly, actively⁴ practicing to care about others increases your compassion — which increases your own inner peace.

　　当你的激情被隐藏的时候很难做出情感上明智的选择。有趣的是，在意别人的积极实践会增加你的激情---这就增加了你自己的内心平和。

　　One of the basic facts about emotion: Feelings motivate.

　　关于情绪最基本的一个事实就是：情绪动力。

　　Fear motivates protection.

　　害怕激发保护。

　　Anger motivates attack.

　　生气激发出手。

　　Joy motivates connection.

　　快乐激发关系。

　　Disgust motivates rejection⁵.

　　厌恶激发排斥。

　　Trust motivates stepping forward.

　　信任激发前进。

　　Sorrow motivates withdrawing.

　　悲伤激发撤退。

　　Anticipation⁶ motivates looking forward.

　　期望激发期望。

　　There are myriad⁷ combinations of these expressed in thousands of words for feelings.

　　在众多表示情绪的词语中还有各种各样的联系。

 

1 jealousy   

n.妒忌，嫉妒，猜忌

参考例句：

• Some women have a disposition to jealousy.有些女人生性爱妒忌。
• I can't support your jealousy any longer.我再也无法忍受你的嫉妒了。

2 fangs   

n.（尤指狗和狼的）长而尖的牙( fang的名词复数 )；（蛇的）毒牙；罐座

参考例句：

• The dog fleshed his fangs in the deer's leg. 狗用尖牙咬住了鹿腿。 来自《现代英汉综合大词典》
• Dogs came lunging forward with their fangs bared. 狗龇牙咧嘴地扑过来。 来自《简明英汉词典》

3 compassion   

n.同情，怜悯

参考例句：

• He could not help having compassion for the poor creature.他情不自禁地怜悯起那个可怜的人来。
• Her heart was filled with compassion for the motherless children.她对于没有母亲的孩子们充满了怜悯心。

4 actively   

adv.积极地，勤奋地

参考例句：

• During this period all the students were actively participating.在这节课中所有的学生都积极参加。
• We are actively intervening to settle a quarrel.我们正在积极调解争执。

5 rejection   

n.拒绝，被拒，抛弃，被弃

参考例句：

• He decided not to approach her for fear of rejection.他因怕遭拒绝决定不再去找她。
• The rejection plunged her into the dark depths of despair.遭到拒绝使她陷入了绝望的深渊。

6 anticipation   

n.预期，预料，期望

参考例句：

• We waited at the station in anticipation of her arrival.我们在车站等着，期待她的到来。
• The animals grew restless as if in anticipation of an earthquake.各种动物都变得焦躁不安，像是感到了地震即将发生。

7 myriad   

adj.无数的；n.无数，极大数量

参考例句：

• They offered no solution for all our myriad problems.对于我们数不清的问题他们束手无策。
• I had three weeks to make a myriad of arrangements.我花了三个星期做大量准备工作。