完美主义为何会让你远离成功

 The Leadership Insiders network is an online community where the most thoughtful and influential¹ people in business contribute answers to timely questions about careers and leadership. Today’s answer to the question: How do you embrace imperfection as part of professional development? is written by Sarah Kauss, founder² and CEO of S’well.

“透视领导力”（The Leadership Insider）是一个在线社区，最睿智、最有影响力的商界大佬会在此回答一些有关职业生涯和领导力的问题。今天的问题是：职业发展中如何正确对待自身不完美之处？回答者是时尚保温瓶制造商S’well的创始人兼首席执行官莎拉?考斯。

I’m a perfectionist. I can beat the best at noodling sentences or setting up rooms until they are just perfect for the occasion. But what I’ve come to learn over the last few years is that being a perfectionist is basically a bad habit—a habit that eats up my day and pigeonholes³ me in ways I sometimes fail to recognize. This isn’t an easy admission—I used to pride myself on being a perfectionist. I was always taught to strive to present and be my best self. But over the years, I’ve learned how truly draining it can be to strive for perfection at every turn.

我是完美主义者。为了精确表达意思，我会反复遣词造句；为了符合特定场合，我会不厌其烦地布置房间，谁也没有我能折腾。可是，近几年我明白了，完美主义其实是个坏习惯。事事追求完美占用了大量时间，而且脑子经常会不自觉地困在小框框里。要承认这点很不容易，我以前还觉得完美主义挺不错的。从小到大，我接受的教育都是要努力表现自己，追求卓越。可这些年我发现：每次一陷入追求完美的状态，最后都会心力憔悴。

完美主义为何会让你远离成功

Recently, I was scheduled to attend a pretty amazing business dinner. I was excited and looking forward to going, but it was a super hectic⁴ day and I’d had zero time to think about getting changed for the occasion, which included major designers, corporate⁵ CEOs, and even a Pulitzer Prize winner. I’d imagine that anyone going to an event like this would want to find time to change clothes, possibly get a fresh manicure, or do something that would make them feel a little more pulled together (which had been my plan all along). But when the calendar reminder⁶ popped up on my computer, I was still at my desk, in my work clothes, and without a fresh coat of polish on my nails.

最近就有个例子，我要出席一个很棒的商务晚宴，之前很兴奋很期待，可当天我特别忙，根本没时间考虑为晚宴打扮。出席晚宴的有一些大牌设计师、企业的首席执行官，甚至还有普利策新闻奖得主。我觉得出席那种晚宴一定要留足时间换衣服，可能去做个美甲，或是调整调整自己振奋精神（我向来会这么安排）。但当电脑上弹出日程表提醒事项的对话框时，我还坐在办公桌前，身上穿着职业装，指甲已经久未打理。

In that moment, the perfectionist in me reared its ugly head, almost convincing me to skip the event. What a mistake that would’ve been. Not only did I end up feeling comfortable as I was, but the event offered a one-of-a-kind experience—one that I wouldn’t have traded in for anything. 

那一刻，完美主义的小魔鬼冒头了，我差一点就想临阵逃脱。然而事实证明，如果我没去参加晚宴才真是犯了大错。晚宴上我不但感到轻松自在，还获得了此生难得的宝贵经历，千金难换。

Perfectionism is different for everyone, but for me, the struggle is real. It’s a part of who I am, and while there are positive aspects to it, I’ve recognized that it creates major limitations. It can keep me, and those like me, from moving fast enough, and without the right amount of confidence. Not to mention that it can keep us from reaching for our dreams, achieving our goals, or partaking in those truly transformative experiences.

每个人的完美主义倾向表现各不相同。但在我身上，就是实实在在的挣扎。完美主义已经侵入了我生活中的各个角落，固然有积极的一面，但对自我的限制更大。完美主义者如我总是行动迟缓，自信心不足。这些还不是最严重的，完美主义者还会不敢追求梦想、目标落空，也没有勇气经历真正脱胎换骨的体验。

Since starting S’well, I’ve had an imperfection awakening⁷. While I catch myself at least a couple of times a week reaching for perfection, I find myself accomplishing more (and feeling more complete) when I remember to throw it out the window.

自从成立S’well起，我开始醒悟，不再苛求完美。虽然每周至少有几次我还是会察觉到自己在追求尽善尽美，但我发现，只要注意避免完美倾向，做事会顺利得多（也感觉更加充实）。

Imagine a business leader who lacks confidence, doesn’t move quickly, or doesn’t participate in new and interesting experiences. How could that leader truly be effective in the long run? While perfectionism will always run through my blood, I’ve become aware of how this tendency can impact the business I’ve created, the employees I’ve hired, the mentees I coach, and the personal opportunities that come my way. This awareness⁸ has allowed me to truly understand when and how to let go.

如果一位企业领导者信心不足，无法迅速行动起来，在新奇有趣的体验来临时又不能参与，长此以往如何保持效率？完美主义还会继续流淌在我的血液中，不过我已经意识到，这种倾向会怎样影响我的事业、影响我聘用的员工、教导过的人，以及人生道路上的个人机遇。明白这些之后，我已经能够把握何时何地，什么情况下应该容忍自己的不完美。

The battle may never end. But it’s a battle I’m willing to fight if it means I’m empowered (or empowering others) and achieving what I’ve set out to accomplish.

与完美主义的战争也许永无休止。但如果通过大小战役我能逐渐掌控局势（或者能帮到他人），获得理想中的成就，这场仗我就愿意打下去。

Don’t get me wrong: Embracing imperfection is a bold move, but it may just be one of the bravest things you will ever do. 

请别误会我的意思：接受不完美确实是很大胆的一步，但人生的历险中需要勇敢闯关的事很多，这可能只是其中一件而已。

1 influential   

adj.有影响的，有权势的

参考例句：

• He always tries to get in with the most influential people.他总是试图巴结最有影响的人物。
• He is a very influential man in the government.他在政府中是个很有影响的人物。

2 Founder   

n.创始者，缔造者

参考例句：

• He was extolled as the founder of their Florentine school.他被称颂为佛罗伦萨画派的鼻祖。
• According to the old tradition,Romulus was the founder of Rome.按照古老的传说，罗穆卢斯是古罗马的建国者。

3 pigeonholes   

n.鸽舍出入口( pigeonhole的名词复数 )；小房间；文件架上的小间隔v.把…搁在分类架上( pigeonhole的第三人称单数 )；把…留在记忆中；缓办；把…隔成小格

参考例句：

• The tidy committee men regard them with horror,knowing that no pigeonholes can be found for them. 衣冠楚楚的委员们恐怖地看着他们，因为他们知道找不到一个稳妥的地方来安置他们。 来自《简明英汉词典》
• All of those who are different those who do not fit the boxes and the pigeonholes? 那些与众不同，不合适常规，不符合传统的人的位置又在哪里？ 来自互联网

4 hectic   

adj.肺病的；消耗热的；发热的；闹哄哄的

参考例句：

• I spent a very hectic Sunday.我度过了一个忙乱的星期天。
• The two days we spent there were enjoyable but hectic.我们在那里度过的两天愉快但闹哄哄的。

5 corporate   

adj.共同的，全体的；公司的，企业的

参考例句：

• This is our corporate responsibility.这是我们共同的责任。
• His corporate's life will be as short as a rabbit's tail.他的公司的寿命是兔子尾巴长不了。

6 reminder   

n.提醒物，纪念品；暗示，提示

参考例句：

• I have had another reminder from the library.我又收到图书馆的催还单。
• It always took a final reminder to get her to pay her share of the rent.总是得发给她一份最后催缴通知，她才付应该交的房租。

7 awakening   

n.觉醒，醒悟 adj.觉醒中的；唤醒的

参考例句：

• the awakening of interest in the environment 对环境产生的兴趣
• People are gradually awakening to their rights. 人们正逐渐意识到自己的权利。

8 awareness   

n.意识，觉悟，懂事，明智

参考例句：

• There is a general awareness that smoking is harmful.人们普遍认识到吸烟有害健康。
• Environmental awareness has increased over the years.这些年来人们的环境意识增强了。