When You Feel Like You Have Lost Control of Your Life

When You Feel Like You Have Lost Control of Your Life

 Raising a family, maintaining a great career, making life more wholesome¹ are life's challenges that are sometimes taken for granted. There are people who treat life as it flows in its daily natural course, a "come what may" attitude. That type of complacency may have been rooted during early stages in life or may have been caused by several severe frustrations² experienced in the past.

There is a particular point in life when we stop chasing rainbows and just stop accepting more challenges. This is unhealthy as the human mind need challenge needs stimulation³. So what are the causes of people having dreams and losing focus? Should we look for who or what to blame. If we do, we may not find the way back on track.

It is easy to say that we should always assess our problems, look for the cause and find solutions. The thing is that it is easier to say these words than to implement⁴ it firmly. The main problem is oftentimes where to start. Too many ideas are out there on how to handle problems in life. Had one of this been too helpful to you? Most of the time, the ideas may be great but not presented in an easily comprehensible manner. One thing left out when those ideas where written is that people who are experiencing a particular problem and had lost track of their lives are in a disturbed situation that they might not give it time to contemplate⁵ on what they are reading or hearing.

Finding the starting line is about recognizing that a problem exists. Without such recognition, we will go nowhere. If you think that everything is fine, why would you look for solutions? Living life to the fullest requires periodic assessment⁶ of where one is heading to. If you feel that life is too easy, there might be something wrong. Think about this adage⁷: "If the going gets easy, you are going downhill". This catches a real point to think about. Stop and take the time to see what is going on around you. Simple decisions today may present great changes of direction for the future.

Several reasons may account for complacency in life: one is being tired of struggling; someone does not see the point of improving his present condition; or that he is fully⁸ content with what he has now. While contentment is a good factor in life, it should not be taken as an excuse to yearn⁹ for improvement. Improving must be a continuous process otherwise you will end up going backwards¹⁰. If you are tired battling with life, rest for a while. It helps to regain¹¹ mental strength. Nevertheless, do not make the interval¹² of time too long. Remember that life is short; there is no time to sit down and wait for graces to fall down from the sky.

When you feel like you have lost control in life, no one else can make you get back on track, you have to do it with your own will. Seeing the need is the key. Looking for a fuel to start moving on is the next step. Make decisions and plan accordingly.

1 wholesome   

adj.适合；卫生的；有益健康的；显示身心健康的

参考例句：

• In actual fact the things I like doing are mostly wholesome.实际上我喜欢做的事大都是有助于增进身体健康的。
• It is not wholesome to eat without washing your hands.不洗手吃饭是不卫生的。

2 frustrations   

挫折( frustration的名词复数 )； 失败； 挫败； 失意

参考例句：

• The temptation would grow to take out our frustrations on Saigon. 由于我们遭到挫折而要同西贡算帐的引诱力会增加。
• Aspirations will be raised, but so will frustrations. 人们会产生种种憧憬，但是种种挫折也会随之而来。

3 stimulation   

n.刺激，激励，鼓舞

参考例句：

• The playgroup provides plenty of stimulation for the children.幼儿游戏组给孩子很多启发。
• You don't get any intellectual stimulation in this job.你不能从这份工作中获得任何智力启发。

4 implement   

n.(pl.)工具，器具；vt.实行，实施，执行

参考例句：

• Don't undertake a project unless you can implement it.不要承担一项计划，除非你能完成这项计划。
• The best implement for digging a garden is a spade.在花园里挖土的最好工具是铁锹。

5 contemplate   

vt.盘算，计议；周密考虑；注视，凝视

参考例句：

• The possibility of war is too horrifying to contemplate.战争的可能性太可怕了，真不堪细想。
• The consequences would be too ghastly to contemplate.后果不堪设想。

6 assessment   

n.评价；评估；对财产的估价，被估定的金额

参考例句：

• This is a very perceptive assessment of the situation.这是一个对该情况的极富洞察力的评价。
• What is your assessment of the situation?你对时局的看法如何？

7 adage   

n.格言，古训

参考例句：

• But the old adage that men grow into office has not proved true in my experience.但是，根据我的经验，人们所谓的工作岗位造就人材这句古话并不正确。
• Her experience lends credence to the adage " We live and learn!"她的经验印证了一句格言: 活到老，学到老！

8 fully   

adv.完全地，全部地，彻底地；充分地

参考例句：

• The doctor asked me to breathe in,then to breathe out fully.医生让我先吸气，然后全部呼出。
• They soon became fully integrated into the local community.他们很快就完全融入了当地人的圈子。

9 yearn   

v.想念；怀念；渴望

参考例句：

• We yearn to surrender our entire being.我们渴望着放纵我们整个的生命。
• Many people living in big cities yearn for an idyllic country life.现在的很多都市人向往那种田园化的生活。

10 backwards   

adv.往回地，向原处，倒，相反，前后倒置地

参考例句：

• He turned on the light and began to pace backwards and forwards.他打开电灯并开始走来走去。
• All the girls fell over backwards to get the party ready.姑娘们迫不及待地为聚会做准备。

11 regain   

vt.重新获得，收复，恢复

参考例句：

• He is making a bid to regain his World No.1 ranking.他正为重登世界排名第一位而努力。
• The government is desperate to regain credibility with the public.政府急于重新获取公众的信任。

12 interval   

n.间隔，间距；幕间休息，中场休息

参考例句：

• The interval between the two trees measures 40 feet.这两棵树的间隔是40英尺。
• There was a long interval before he anwsered the telephone.隔了好久他才回了电话。