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英语PK台 第406期:该不该对陌生人说出“逆耳忠言”?

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   You go to a formal dinner party.

  你参加一个正式晚宴。
  You talk to the person on one side during the starter, the other during the main course.
  你在吃前菜期间与坐在你一边的人聊天,在吃主菜的时候与坐在你另一边的人聊天。
  Sometimes the conversation skips along, more often it drags and falters1.
  有时谈话相当投机,更多时候则是拖泥带水,话说不到一起去。
  You enjoy or endure the evening, and then you go home.
  你享受(或者忍受)了一个晚上,然后你回家了。
  That is, unless you are Robert Hiscox.
  一般是这样的——除非你是罗伯特?希斯考克斯(Robert Hiscox)。
  The founder2 of the eponymous insurance company told me some years ago that at the end of a dinner party he turned to the people on either side and offered feedback on how he had found their conversation.
  用自己的姓氏创办保险公司的他在几年前告诉我,在晚宴结束的时候,他会转向坐在他某一边的人,针对他对与他们聊天的感觉给予反馈。
  He would say: I enjoyed hearing your views on the EU, but you might have asked me about mine.
  他会说:我乐于听到您对欧盟(EU)的看法,但您或许也该问问我对欧盟有什么看法。
  Or: It was interesting to learn about how well your child did in his A-levels, but you seemed reluctant to discuss other topics.
  或者:了解您的孩子在高中水平考试(A-Levels)中成绩优异很有意思,但您似乎不太情愿谈论其他话题。
  At the time I was shocked.
  当时我就震惊了。
  How could he be so rude? Mr Hiscox assured me that conversing3 at formal dinners is a skill; it is hard to get better at anything if no one tells you where you are going wrong.
  他怎能如此粗鲁?希斯考克斯向我保证,在正式晚宴上交谈是一种技能;任何事情,如果没人指点你你在哪里出了错,你很难加以改进。
  I protested that there was far too much feedback in the world anyway.
  我抗议道,无论如何这个世界已经有太多反馈意见。
  Sometimes it was nice to be left alone to muddle4 through.
  在不受打扰的情况下应付过去有时也不错。
  Two things have made me change my mind.
  两件事改变了我的看法。
  The first is in the years since then I have been to too many dinners and sat next to too many people who were not trying hard enough.
  第一件事是,在那之后的多年间,我参加了太多晚宴,坐在太多不够尽力的人旁边。
  The second is the realisation that although there is too much useless general feedback (no, I don't want to rate my experience in security at Heathrow Terminal 5) there is almost no specific feedback that helps us improve.
  第二件事是,我意识到,虽然有太多无用的笼统反馈(不,我不想评价我在希斯罗机场5号航站楼的安检体验),但几乎没有能够帮助我们改进的具体反馈。
  Not long ago I got an email from a man who had been in the audience of a speech I had just given.
  不久前,我收到了一封邮件,我在那之前刚刚发表了一次演讲,邮件是一名观众发给我的。
  You really need to sort that hair/reading glasses challenge, he wrote.
  他写道:你真的需要搞定头发/老花镜的挑战,
  Every time you put your reading glasses on, your hair falls over your left eye and you then keep having to flick5 it out of the way—it looks most amusing, but must be awkward!! As a regular presenter6, I always like to get feedback.
  他写道,每次当你戴上老花镜,你的头发就会遮住你的左眼,然后你就会不停地把头发撩开——这看起来极其好笑,但肯定很尴尬!!作为一个定期发表演讲的人,我总是喜欢得到反馈。
  Hope you don't mind me pointing it out!
  希望你不介意我把这一点指出来!
  I did mind his pointing it out.
  我的确介意。
  Unlike him, I never like to get feedback, unless it is entirely7 positive.
  和他不一样,我从不喜欢得到反馈,除非这些反馈是完全正面的。
  And in any case, how dare he? I never asked for his views.
  再说无论如何,他怎么敢这样?我从未请求他给出意见。
  And if he thought a few exclamation8 marks would make his message more agreeable, he was making a grave error.
  如果他觉得几个感叹号会让他的邮件更容易被接受,那么他就犯了一个严重的错误。
  Yet his words struck home.
  然而他的话对我触动很大。
  It was not nice to think the audience's merriment had been mainly on account of my hair.
  想到我的头发让观众不舒服,这使我郁闷。
  So for the next few speeches I printed out any notes in 24 point so I could read them without glasses, and have now cut my hair so short there is no further danger of flicking9.
  所以接下来的几次演讲,我都用24号字体尺寸把要点打印出来,这样我不需要眼镜也能阅读,我现在还把我的头发剪得很短,彻底消除需要撩开的危险。
  On reflection, this man's feedback was close to perfection.
  细想之下,这个人给我的反馈接近完美。
  It was direct but not rude.
  直接,但不粗鲁。
  It was clear about what was wrong—which was something fixable.
  明确地指出哪里不对劲——而这个问题是可以搞定的。
  It came from a disinterested10 source and was delivered by email—so saved my blushes.
  这个反馈来自非利益相关方,并且是用邮件发过来的——免去了我在人前面红耳赤。
  Last week, another piece of unsolicited feedback landed in my inbox.
  上周,另一份不请自来的反馈发到了我的收件箱。
  This time it was from someone who was thanking me for talking at a conference he had organised.
  这次邮件来自一个想要感谢我在他组织的会议上发言的人。
  After a gracious start, the email finished like this: I always try to end with a tip for improvement.
  在礼貌的开头后,这封邮件是这样结尾的:我总是试着用一个改进的小建议结尾。
  It was a little complicated to get in touch, confirm your travel plans, and do the arrangements.
  与你联络上、确定你的旅行计划,做好安排有点复杂。
  Can I suggest you get an assistant?
  我能建议你找个助理吗?
  This was also good in that it was clear—only rather harder to fix than the hair as assistants do not come cheap.
  这个反馈也不错,因为很明晰——只不过要比头发问题更难改正,因为雇个助理可不便宜。
  Still, it told me that my habit of ignoring admin emails is not on.
  不过,这告诉我,我无视事务性邮件的习惯不太好。
  I have heeded11 the point and will try to sharpen up.
  我留意到了这一点,并且将努力改进。
  The test of unsolicited feedback is not whether it is rude or unwelcome, but whether it serves the greater good.
  检验不请自来的反馈的标准,不是这个反馈是否粗鲁或者不受欢迎,而是它是否服务于更大的善。
  I no longer flick my hair, and am committed to replying more promptly12: the world is a happier place.
  我不再撩我的头发,也努力做到更迅速地回复邮件:这个世界更美好了。
  Soon after my lunch with Mr Hiscox I was sat at a dinner next to a well-known snooty broadcaster.
  在我与希斯考克斯共进午餐之后不久,我在一次晚宴上坐在一位著名的目中无人的主持人旁边。
  Throughout the meal I tried hard to be agreeable; he sat there taciturn, looking catatonic and mildly incredulous as I plied13 him with question and anecdote14.
  在用餐期间,我努力做到友好可亲;他却坐在那里一言不发,在我向他抛出一大堆问题和轶事的时候看起来紧张和略微有些狐疑。
  At the end of the evening I longed to offer him a report card, but bottled.
  晚宴结束时,我很想给他一张成绩单,但终于没能鼓起勇气。
  I have regretted it ever since: I bet if I had explained his poor performance he would have been first shocked, then mortified15.
  此后我一直为此后悔:我敢打赌,如果我向他解释他表现糟糕,他首先会震惊,然后感到难堪。
  I dare say he would have liked me (even) less, but might have tried harder in future.
  我敢说,他之后会(更)不喜欢我了,但可能会在未来更加努力。
  Next time, I'm going for it.
  下次我一定要试一试。

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1 falters fd2ab5918c10d6fbce972ade02d2da5c     
(嗓音)颤抖( falter的第三人称单数 ); 支吾其词; 蹒跚; 摇晃
参考例句:
  • He never falters in his determination. 他的决心从不动摇。
  • The plan never falters; the design never changes. It is all ordered. 大自然从不步履蹒跚,从不三心二意,一切都是有条不紊。
2 Founder wigxF     
n.创始者,缔造者
参考例句:
  • He was extolled as the founder of their Florentine school.他被称颂为佛罗伦萨画派的鼻祖。
  • According to the old tradition,Romulus was the founder of Rome.按照古老的传说,罗穆卢斯是古罗马的建国者。
3 conversing 20d0ea6fb9188abfa59f3db682925246     
v.交谈,谈话( converse的现在分词 )
参考例句:
  • I find that conversing with her is quite difficult. 和她交谈实在很困难。 来自《简明英汉词典》
  • They were conversing in the parlor. 他们正在客厅谈话。 来自《现代英汉综合大词典》
4 muddle d6ezF     
n.困惑,混浊状态;vt.使混乱,使糊涂,使惊呆;vi.胡乱应付,混乱
参考例句:
  • Everything in the room was in a muddle.房间里每一件东西都是乱七八糟的。
  • Don't work in a rush and get into a muddle.克服忙乱现象。
5 flick mgZz1     
n.快速的轻打,轻打声,弹开;v.轻弹,轻轻拂去,忽然摇动
参考例句:
  • He gave a flick of the whip.他轻抽一下鞭子。
  • By a flick of his whip,he drove the fly from the horse's head.他用鞭子轻抽了一下,将马头上的苍蝇驱走。
6 presenter llRzYi     
n.(电视、广播的)主持人,赠与者
参考例句:
  • Most people think being a television presenter is exciting.很多人认为当电视节目主持人是一件刺激的事情。
  • The programme dispensed with its most popular presenter.这个节目最受欢迎的主持人被换掉了。
7 entirely entirely     
ad.全部地,完整地;完全地,彻底地
参考例句:
  • The fire was entirely caused by their neglect of duty. 那场火灾完全是由于他们失职而引起的。
  • His life was entirely given up to the educational work. 他的一生统统献给了教育工作。
8 exclamation onBxZ     
n.感叹号,惊呼,惊叹词
参考例句:
  • He could not restrain an exclamation of approval.他禁不住喝一声采。
  • The author used three exclamation marks at the end of the last sentence to wake up the readers.作者在文章的最后一句连用了三个惊叹号,以引起读者的注意。
9 flicking 856751237583a36a24c558b09c2a932a     
(尤指用手指或手快速地)轻击( flick的现在分词 ); (用…)轻挥; (快速地)按开关; 向…笑了一下(或瞥了一眼等)
参考例句:
  • He helped her up before flicking the reins. 他帮她上马,之后挥动了缰绳。
  • There's something flicking around my toes. 有什么东西老在叮我的脚指头。
10 disinterested vu4z6s     
adj.不关心的,不感兴趣的
参考例句:
  • He is impartial and disinterested.他公正无私。
  • He's always on the make,I have never known him do a disinterested action.他这个人一贯都是唯利是图,我从来不知道他有什么无私的行动。
11 heeded 718cd60e0e96997caf544d951e35597a     
v.听某人的劝告,听从( heed的过去式和过去分词 );变平,使(某物)变平( flatten的过去式和过去分词 )
参考例句:
  • She countered that her advice had not been heeded. 她反驳说她的建议未被重视。 来自《简明英汉词典》
  • I heeded my doctor's advice and stopped smoking. 我听从医生的劝告,把烟戒了。 来自《简明英汉词典》
12 promptly LRMxm     
adv.及时地,敏捷地
参考例句:
  • He paid the money back promptly.他立即还了钱。
  • She promptly seized the opportunity his absence gave her.她立即抓住了因他不在场给她创造的机会。
13 plied b7ead3bc998f9e23c56a4a7931daf4ab     
v.使用(工具)( ply的过去式和过去分词 );经常供应(食物、饮料);固定往来;经营生意
参考例句:
  • They plied me with questions about my visit to England. 他们不断地询问我的英国之行。 来自《简明英汉词典》
  • They plied us with tea and cakes. 他们一个劲儿地让我们喝茶、吃糕饼。 来自《简明英汉词典》
14 anecdote 7wRzd     
n.轶事,趣闻,短故事
参考例句:
  • He departed from the text to tell an anecdote.他偏离课文讲起了一则轶事。
  • It had never been more than a family anecdote.那不过是个家庭趣谈罢了。
15 mortified 0270b705ee76206d7730e7559f53ea31     
v.使受辱( mortify的过去式和过去分词 );伤害(人的感情);克制;抑制(肉体、情感等)
参考例句:
  • She was mortified to realize he had heard every word she said. 她意识到自己的每句话都被他听到了,直羞得无地自容。
  • The knowledge of future evils mortified the present felicities. 对未来苦难的了解压抑了目前的喜悦。 来自《简明英汉词典》
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